13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin

I started reading this out of curiosity and believing it wouldn’t be much use, as many self-help books I’ve read were snake oil. This one is based on science and practical steps. As humans we’re mentally strong but not all the times, especially when we face lots of problems in life. I’d recommend this book to readers who is stressed, depressed, wants to get rid of their problems and be strong. Here are the 13 things, as per book, mentally strong folks should not do:

1. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
2. They don’t give away their power.
3. They don’t shy away from change.
4. They don’t focus on things they can’t control.
5. They don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
6. They don’t fear taking calculated risks.
7. They don’t dwell on the past.
8. They don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
9. They don’t resent other people’s success.
10. They don’t give up after the first failure.
11. They don’t fear alone time.
12. They don’t feel the world owes them anything.
13. They don’t expect immediate results.


This book changes the way we see the problems, in actual problems aren’t problems they’re just the state of mind or just a situation which needs strong mind to overcome it. This book gave me so much food for thought. Some chapters seemed like they were written just for me (or people I know). I remembered the famous quote while reading:

“When Mind Is Weak, Situation turns into Problem.!
When Mind is Balanced, Situation is a Challenge.!
When Mind is Strong, Situation becomes Opportunity”

Author (Amy Morin) explains how to overcome life’s challenges or problems by following 13 things mentioned above. She took real life examples to explain how people overcome their challenges, for example, person who is addicted to alcohol can get rid of that unhealthy behaviour by going for walk or call a friend. This book gives you a lot of truly helpful strategies for improving your capacity for dealing with adversity and becoming someone who can handle challenges, find everyday happiness and satisfaction, and prime yourself for success. Morin draws on her experience, not only as a therapist, but having dealt with unexpected hardship in her own life.

Some people may wonder about the negative focus of this book (things mentally strong people don’t do). Morin answers this objection in the introduction saying, “Good habits are important, but it’s often our bad habits that prevent us from reaching our full potential. You can have all the good habits in the world, but if you keep doing the bad habits alongside the good ones, you’ll struggle to reach your goals. Think of it this way: you’re only as good as your worst habits.”

It’s our mind that thinks about the problem and its our mind which should be trained to overcome problem. Like physical strength, mental strength requires healthy habits, exercise and hard work. To rejuvenate the way I think about problems, I will read specific chapters again.

Outcome of this book is to stay mentally strong so we can easily find a way for happiness and success.

“Just like you need to work to maintain your physical strength, mental strength requires ongoing maintenance. And there is always room for improvement. If your mental muscles aren’t being maintained or strengthened, they’ll begin to atrophy.”

My Rating : 4/5

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