It’s time to TREAT ourselves. Happy Women’s Day!

TringTring! I woke up from the eerily sound of bell comes from main door. It’s 6.30 am and I still need a full hour sleep to complete my beauty sleep quota. But Alas! I have left that luxury of beauty sleep a long time ago.
I rushed to open the door for maid and to catch up the day that already seems to be running an hour ahead of me. The next one hour is turmoil of preparing breakfast, getting ready, making sure that darling husband also get up and get ready on time. While still on Breakfast table,suddenly phone rings. It is one of my teammate who works at R&D centre and starts his day as early as 7.30 am. “Have you done the budgeting for upcoming project? Today we are planning to review.” Promising to get back to him in few hours, I rise from the table and brace myself to face yet another day. At office deadlines, Project reviews and meetingskept so busy that today again I skipped my lunch. Reached home late and got to know that we are late for Supper. Rapidly firing instruction to dear husband to lend a helping hand in Kitchen for Dinner. Dinner followed by daily chorus to keep my household going, finally I dropped onto bad as late as 11.30 pm. Dear Husband wants to have some romance but I waived him off promising for weekends.
This is a typical Story of any working woman next door. Spending years of our life playing the Role of Wife, Mom, Daughter, Daughter in Law, Colleague and Boss , somewhere down the line I figured out that Most of us has stop living for ourselves. Neither are we those so-called ‘Abla nari’ nor that prominent lady who is living life on her own term. We are somewhere in between. Someone asked me once that why are you continue working when you have so many issues. My answer to him was:-
• To have a career and to propagate on corporate ladder
• To prove ourselves
• To attain financial independency and to have ‘that’ extra Luxury of Life
• And of course, To support family financially
Most of the Females in India start to work because of one or more of above reasons. But are we really getting in return what we deserve. Ragini one of my friend since college days, said to me once “ My whole salary was captured by my husband immediately it comes to me. I am no master of my fate. I am not even allowed to decide menu of Dinner, he is controlling me up to that level.” I was shocked and really loved my dear Husband that moment, but the truth is that we all are still living in a male dominated society and being an Independent woman is not so easy. Indian women are talking about independency, feminism, My Life my Choice, but very frequently in our life Journey we keep sacrificing our wishes for our loved once. Here is my counsel to my sisters that “It’s time we treat ourselves.”
Stop Curbing Wishes:-First of all stop putting restriction on yourself. Buy what you want, take vacations, nurture that old buried Hobby, and Develop new interest. If you are not satisfied with your life how will you spread happiness in your family? So from today on wards please reset your priorities and start living a joyful life.

Stop Feeling Guilty:-At some point of time all of us have guilt for not being our best version. It can be anything like not giving enough time to Family, leaving the kids to daycare, ordering food outside,Not able to take care of parents bla bla. I am not refuting that we should not strive for being our finest but we should not take this as a load and feel the pain on chest all the time. Family chores should be handled by family, not only by the lady of the house.
Take Stand:-Stand up for what you believe is righteous and good for you. Remember that if you do not stand up for yourself nobody will. It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies but even more to stand up to your family. So many times young women are lured into what their group of friends is saying or doing, even when they know it’s not right. We need to be tougher and stand by our convictions.It may end up that you’re not friends with those people anymore, but you’ll make new friends that share your values.
You are Powerful :-It’s pretty amazing being a woman, you have all of the essentials for life within you. You’re a very nurturing force, and not only have the power to create life, but to incubate it and deliver it to the world. On an individual level you’re able to change and become whatever you want, growing and developing into the life that you choose. It is an amazing experience and one that you’ll want to create consciously rather than letting others decide what sort of life you’ll have. Never forget that you have these powers within you.
Love Yourself:- Remember that the only person you’ll ever have your entire life is you, and that if you fall in love with yourself first ,you’ll have an easier time. It doesn’t mean you can’t find love in another person, but if you don’t love yourself, you’re going to have trouble attracting that special someone into your life. It starts with you first, and finding a happy place with yourself, which will make others see the value you possess and treat you accordingly. Also please take care of your health. If anyone in family is not well it can be managed but if lady herself is unwell I have experienced that whole family has tough time.
Set them Straight: –I have observed that many women nowadays have a tough time to deal with nasty and objectifying comments. As women we have a tendency to take things personally and many ladies with low self-esteem get the most vulnerable feel, but we should not have to let it change us and make us feel any less about ourselves. We have a choice to either let it consume us or not allow their actions to bring us down… We can’t walk around blaming everyone else for who we are today or how we feel either. If someone gets to us, it’s because we allowed it to happen. Remember I repeat Remember you are worth more than the words or actions coming from someone who is not worth your time or attention. BE BOLD BE FIRM AND BE STRAIGHTFORWARD
Here’s a life lesson I have pen down based on my personal experience and have internalize. If you want to greet the world in a fearless way, if you want to be independent and be victorious in the quest to achieve your goals and dreams, you have to believe you have what it takes first. Read it every day until it becomes a part of you, and you’ll see it unfold in your life.
A Small poetry here dedicated to my Sisters on this Occasion of Women’s day:

हम हैं नवयुग की नारी
बढ़कर संभाले हर जिम्मेदारी
संघर्षों का करें सहर्ष सामना
नहीं हम कभी किसी से हारी
हम से पल्लवित होती आशाएँ
हम बढ़ती प्रगति उन्नति की राहें
हम शक्ति साधना संस्कृति
हम से रचित संरचित सारी सृष्टि
कोमल सरल सरस हैं कभी हम
रण चंडी कभी दुर्गा हम हैं
सपनों को लेकर जीती हैं हम
सपनों को सच कर दिखलाती हैं
हम उमंग में हम उल्लास में
हम लय में हम समय में
आज़ाद परिंदे हम नील गगन के
तुफानो में भी रहते डटके
हम बाहर भी हम घर में
हम श्रम में हम कर्म में
हम ज्ञान में हम मर्म में
हम स्नेह में हम प्रीत में
हम नृत्य में हम गीत में
हम मान में हम सम्मान में
हम साहसी हम विश्वासी
हम राग में हम रंग में
हम प्रकृति की हर तरंग में
दृढ इरादों में हम हैं
हम असीम सम्भावना में
हम शांति में हम क्रांति में
हैं साथ साथ हम हर कदम में
तालमेल हम रखती बेहतर
दिखलायें हर मैदान जीतकर
हम हैं नवयुग की नारी
बढ़कर संभाले हर जिम्मेदारी

3 thoughts on “It’s time to TREAT ourselves. Happy Women’s Day!”

  1. It’s pleasure to read your views. Reality With wittiness is that makes one enjoy it.Happy womens day… and yah thanks to hubby darling for being beside you at every step and that’s your strength.😊😊😊

  2. Well said, Husband also now ready to support and as you said it takes lot of courage for ownen to come out of age old concept and start showcasing their talent.

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