I guess that many couples are going to hate this but I will be honest. I am not writing this post with the mentality of a person who has failed in love (Hell no! I am into a successful running marriage from 6 years and counting). I am writing this from the point of view of a common woman.
Not to demean the ones who are celebrating it but Valentine’s day is so immature in a way. It definitely goes quite hard on pocket, as it has turned into a mere materialistic event nowadays. Interestingly, your love has a market value now, and trying to deviate from the trend might only offend your partner.
Let’s have a look :
Day 1: Rose Day: So you meet your love and greet her with a lovely rose – your valentine posts it on Instagram – ‘Happy rose day’ along with the roses which you gave her. But I recommend planting your own rose plant.
Day 2: Propose Day: I never understand this sequence now. First you give rose and then the next day you propose? To the same girl who you have been with for last couple of months or years? Explain me this. I’m flummoxed.
Day 3: Chocolate Day: Since you’ve accepted my proposal yesterday. Second time! Let’s celebrate it with something sweet. Here’s the chocolate. This day makes much more sense to me, yeah!
Day 4: Teddy Day: Honey I’ve got you nice teddy. I had to fight with stupid vendor. For 5 inch ka teddy he was asking 1500 rupees. I settled him on 1450. Never mind baby, it is a teddy day and you’ll need a cute teddy to post it to your Instagram too!!
Day 5: Promise Day: So couples promise each other. So what’s it like? We’ll always be ‘do dil ek jaan?’ (Two hearts, one soul). Or we’ll stick together till the day we get bored of each other, start fighting and find someone who’ll sympathize us.
Day 6: Hug Day: Let’s hug it out. Six years into a relationship still your hug is as warm as it was years back. I feel serene. Is this what happens on a hug day?
Day 7: Kiss Day: Oh my! Indian couples – privacy – hug – kiss – valentine’s day. Now this sequence makes sense to me. By the way hug day and kiss day could be concluded in a single day. Cost cutting, time saving or whatever!
D-Day: Valentine’s Day: This is the day you give her some expensive jewellery, take her out to a fine restaurant. And end up in bed together. So convenient!
Can you see how smooth the whole process is? Somebody surely did a PhD in the art of hooking up if you are in love then you need to do all these things :
- Celebrate Valentine’s day
- Click lots of pictures(PDA must) and jam everybody’s social media feed with those pictures.
I mean that’s what it meant, right??
Also who is the most happy on the D-Day, The couples? Hell NO! Valentine’s Day is another big day of marketing gimmicks. It is being exploited by businesses for their own profits. Well let me give you the list of beneficiaries of Valentine’s Day.
Jewellers: A friend of mine is getting a diamond ring for Valentine’s Day. She is definitely happy but I am sure the Jeweller is happier. Not so sure about the poor husband though.
Florists: If I were the florist selling roses for 250 bucks when I sell the same rose for 25 bucks on other days, then I would want every day to be Rose Day or Valentine’s Day.
Teddy Bear sellers: Doesn’t matter if you are 60 year old who stopped playing with teddies a long time back. If your partner happens to be a hopeless romantic or just seeking to bribe you, then he might buy you a teddy bear bigger than yourself. And guess who the happiest person is in the whole affair.
Chocolatiers: On other days you may view chocolates as figure killers but on this day you might feel like killing your partner if he or she forgets to gift you a box of imported chocolates. Again it is Chocolatiers who is laughing his way to the bank.
Restaurateur and Hoteliers: On this day a lot of poor people find their whole months salary spent to have a candle lit dinner at that ridiculously expensive restaurant just because it is Valentine’s Day. And some clever people book rooms for you know what. Needless to say Restaurateurs and Hoteliers are happy beyond words.
I grew up watching my parents caring for each other, sacrificing and compromising and never even bothering to know what is Valentine’s Day. That has been my idea of love also. Love is more beautiful when you reached home after a gloomy tiring day and your partner pampers you with a good food, soft music and a healthy conversation about the hectic day. My love journey started on 18th Nov 2012 as our first metaphoric valentine’s day (not the cliché calendar date 14th Feb) and is still continuing in my life. And Thanks to the almighty that we both saved ourselves from falling into this vicious trap.
I still have friends who are more worried about where to go for valentine’s than their upcoming business events! I have seen many girls asking for gifts from their husbands/boyfriend cause her best friend’s boyfriend have given her a bouquet of flowers with chocolates and teddy bear. I mean that’s insane it’s just a competition to make some one jealous of your virtual love life. The reality is something else! Valentine’s Day have overly romanticized things and somewhere the true essence of love cannot be felt. Obviously, everyone is not like that but put your hand above your heart and ask-how many have you met who are not like that?! My only problem with this day is that it has changed the youth’s perception about the idea of love and I absolutely stand against it.
I have no intention to hurt anyone who is celebrating, I wish them good luck, but that’s what I have to say, V-day is astonishingly overrated. But if you are looking for love it might sound cliche but every day is a Valentine’s Day.
Lots of love to everyone!